So ... how far would you go in an effort to right some wrongs done to you?

Hello folks!
The following item is a blog post I wrote two weeks ago, but I had to do some soul searching to come to the conclusion if I truly wanted to go through with my plans. See, if I do this (what my blog talks about), I could be destroying a person's life and imploding a relationship.
True, all the parties involved need a rude awakening. And I don't really care about any of them any longer.
But I just need to be certain that I am okay with what I need to do, and I've been agonizing about all of the repercussions.
So I put it out there ... what would you do?
Read on:
Once a year, just like a birthday, Miss Bernadine decides to clear out her treasure chest and find that one item that she feels that the world just needs to know, and she spills the “T”.
That time every year is fast approaching, that day is this Friday. I’ve never really got any clarity on whether Miss Bernadine wants to morph into Miss Karma for that day, or if she’s just damn tired of seeing others get the upper hand. I guess it’s her way of making sure that people don’t trample on her feelings.
True, I’m a sensitive soul, and things do hurt me from time to time. A lot of things affect us all. For me, a couple of things that get to me would definitely be when people only see the color of a person’s skin and refuse to look past that. My motto has always been “Whatever anyone thinks about me is none of my business.” But there are times that I do actually care, because when people judge others simply by their race, it’s downright tragic.
But I digress.
This Friday (actually this week), something tremendous and difficult is happening in my personal life. I really can’t go into details at this time, but it has been the most stressful thing I think I’ve had to deal with in my life thus far.
But as this pivotal milestone has been uppermost in my mind and just doing whatever I can to get over this particular hump and not crush people in my path, it has occurred to me that I may have been working overtime to not hurt a person because I didn’t want bad karma coming my way. And I didn’t need any of that in my life.
But I think I got that incorrect in my mind, because keeping this secret so others wouldn’t get hurt in the process, I’ve hurt myself by keeping it. There are times when people have referred to me as “Charlotte”, the “Sex in the City” Park Avenue Pollyanna who just thinks that “Gee, if you wish hard enough, and do the right things always, you’ll be blessed with a good man, a great job, good karma and only the best in this life.”
It was a good thing that I had my alter – Miss Bernadine – to balance out that way of thinking. Because I did believe my “Charlotte” side … but it’s seeming like I can’t follow that philosophy, at least not anymore.
And this secret I’ve been holding on to, to spare feelings, well it’s just not worth it any longer. So at the end of this week, I am not only dealing with a stressful milestone, a turning point, in my life, but I’m also going to let the secret out. And I am going to have to tell the person. In all reality, I don’t believe he deserves to be spared the truth, because maybe the truth is no better than the lies.
I was dating someone last year, and I tried hard to get past a few things that he did and not hold the past against him. Well, I may have been the best thing he ever had in his life, but that just wasn’t enough to keep me around. Before we ended things, he was with another man. Oddly enough, I didn’t really care that he was with another man, because as the saying goes, “I can do bad all by myself.”
What hurt was that the person he stepped out on me with was a friend of mine, a married friend of mine. I was so pissed at this friend that I just wanted to tell his husband. But my “friend” begged me to keep it secret and not destroy his marriage, and the Charlotte in me gave in and kept his secret. Well Miss Bernadine just no longer agrees to do so.
I’ve been hurt a lot in the past two years, but I’ve kept it all inside and took it all, no matter the cost. It’s not good for a person to do that, just because everyone expects it from you.
It’s time that others had to answer for their actions. So I’m getting it out in the open and telling the husband. I mean, why should I care what happens to the happy couple? And maybe a little piece of me wants to repay the guy who I did so much for and put myself out on a limb, more times than I want to recount. I let him in my little world, and he let me down in so many ways.
This week, I really need to reclaim that spark that made Miss Bernadine shine. I really need to once again be on the inside what I’ve been trying very hard to show on the outside.
I’m taking back my life – personally, professionally and spiritually – with no Rupologies! I mean, it’s true – if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love anyone else? RuPaul is a role model of this queen (thus her words ring true in my ears), and I need to find my way back to fabulousness – something that RuPaul truly believes in doing.
No matter what.
So I ask ... what would you do if you were Miss Bernadine?