I was speaking to a couple of friends about the movie "Mean Girls" and we just starting laughing.
We weren't laughing about the movie, per say, but we were laughing about the fact that in Asbury Park there's a gay man or two who could actually be mistaken for the character in the movie named Regina George. Now if you haven't seen the movie, Regina George is a real bitch and tries to make others feel less-than while in her presence. She also has put together a "Burn Book", where she does a lot of trash talking about people who really have no idea they are in it. A true bitch! In fact, I guess you could actually compare that character to Christie Masters, the bitch character in the movie "Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion". But Regina George fits the description a lot better.
This gay man, it's obvious that I don't even need to say his name because everyone in Asbury Park knows who this person is. He's a good guy, but can be a real bitch who needs to feel superior to other people for what reason, I have no idea.
But the funny thing is that in the gay community, there are a lot of distinctive characteristics we fall into. A few of the gay men in the community are Regina Georges, but there's a lot more categories.
Now in my case, I fall into the category of butch. Guys like me who are butch are extremely "straight-acting" men who just happen to be gay. There's a lot of gay men in the community like me. Some of us like to go out with other "straight-acting" guys because we have a lot in common with them. But some of us like to date men who fall into other categories.
One of those categories would be queens. Now the gay men who are considered queens are the ones who, as it was said back in the day, have a lot of sugar in their tank. I really didn't know what that meant before, but I know what it means now. Queens are the guys who are effeminate and seem very flamboyant, ones who seem like they could just fly away. They are closer to feminine than anything else. Sometimes you just love to be around them; at times, though, their flamboyant nature can be a bit too much.
Bears, another category in the gay community, are just so sweet-natured and lovable. Bears are men who are a bit heavier in weight, and mostly hairy. They exude a hell of a lot of confidence in themselves and their weight, and they make their weight and hairyness something to be proud of. Also part of the bear community would be the cubs. Now cubs are simply young bears. Cubs have all the physical and mental attributes of a bear, they just aren't old enough to be a full-fledged bear. Also related to these are otters, who are slimmer and less hairy bear-admirers, and wolves are bears that are typically more aggressive and overtly masculine.
Twinks are those guys in the community who are young and free, so to speak. When I say free, I just mean that they seem like they have not a care in the world. Most times, twinks do have a lot of worries, but they seem to mask it well. But they are very young in age and carefree in their nature. These guys have such a youthful exuberance about life.
Now Broadway boys are just so special, in my opinion. They usually frequent piano bars and break out in song to the tunes of "Hello Dolly" or "Suddenly Seymour". They can sometimes be a little queeny, but for the most part, they just like to sing Broadway tunes and be a bit flamboyant about it. I just love them!
Angels are just goody-goody guys who make the gay life seem easy. They like to be the do-gooders who give their time and efforts back to the community. They'll volunteer their time to the cause, just to make things easier for others.
The troubled are just that - troubled. They like to see the negative side of being gay, and they like to make others see that side as well. Sometimes these people are too much to take, and their odd anger at being gay is just too much to take. They are troubled souls, and no matter how disappointing their lives seem to be, others can't help but want to make them see the more positive sides of being gay. And to their detriment, troubled souls love the attention. They feed off of it.
Now these definitions that I've supplied are in my opinions only. There are a lot of other categories, but for the most part, these represent the gay male community. Sometimes the categories merge - in that case, for example, a butch gay man can also be a Broadway boy. I'm that way at times, and hell, I just love it when I get that way.
So, my fellow gay men, which category do you fall into? I know some people don't like labels, but all of us can lump ourselves into one of these groups.
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