I want to begin this blog post by giving major props to those individuals working in the service industry. Whether you are a hotel, bar or restaurant manager … a server/waiter/waitress … a chef, cook or baker … bartender, cocktail waitress …. bouncer, security guard or barback … those individuals working as bellhops, maids, restaurant hosts, kitchen help, busboys, front desk workers or maitre d’s.
All of you have to put up with a lot of crap. And you will understand why I am praising you as this blog progresses.
But to put things into simple terms, it amazes me that in a world where so many people have to put up with so many situations, attitudes and craziness, that there are some people on this planet who just don’t understand the simple joys of avoiding drama and tragic occurrences.
To make it plain, there are just too many people who should be wearing a bright red warning label that specifically says, “DOES NOT PLAY WELL WITH OTHERS!”
They seem to be coming out of the woodwork. I’ll give you a few examples of these individuals.
First, you have those individuals who will take any open opportunity to cause a rift between two content, loving souls who are just trying to make it day to day in a happy relationship. Sure, all of us have ups and downs, but these interlopers who will use the first sign of discord between a couple to attempt to break them up, well these individuals are just tragic souls.
Not only will they amp up the tragedy, but they will also blow a situation out of proportion just to cause a rift and break the two up. Why? There are a number of reasons. But one reason is because these individuals don’t have anything going on in their own lives, so they interject themselves into a couple’s relationship.
Maybe it’s just what these people like to do, cause drama and dissention in the lives of others. But I wish these people would see a glimmer of self-reflection and understand that their actions are not lost on the many members of the community and that person will no longer be trusted by anyone. And not only that, but they will begin to be shunned by a large portion of the community because their two-faced masks will forever be uncovered.
People in such a close-knit community have long memories, and if an individual gets this sort of reputation, it will be years before they can get rid of it; if they ever will. There are a few individuals who already have this reputation, and trust me, people in the community no longer trust you. And if you lose a community’s respect and trust, it’s lost for good.
Another group of people who should be wearing that warning label are those individuals who are out on the town and turn into drunken disasters. Now I know that we all can tie one on and sometimes overdo it, but that’s not the ones I’m describing. The ones I’m describing are those individuals who will tie one on, get drop-down drunk, cause so many people to worry about them, and will do the unthinkable – will insult and cause chaos with their true friends who just want to make sure they don’t crash their cars, end up in the slammer with a DUI, or worse – get themselves killed.
I’ve been the recipient of these people’s agitation and verbal abuse because I’ve been sober enough to try to help them to keep themselves safe, and I’ve gotten the short end of the stick. We’ve all had to deal with these friends, because at the end of the day they are friends. There have been a few times that fellow members in the service industry have asked me to make sure these people remain safe.
I don’t mind, because I’d want a person to do this for me, and some of my friends have done this for me. And I’ve been grateful.
And this is why I’ve given a shout out to so many in the service industry, because they have no choice but to help you out. They’ve had to put up with a lot of aggravation, so how about this – how about you give them a break and if you do lose control in a drunken stupor, you treat them with respect? How about that? It’s very simple.
Because sir or madam, once you do it one too many times, they will not watch your back because you end up kicking them in the back one too many times. You lose their respect, then you’ll lose your privileges. So calm it down and try to keep yourself in check. And if you have people who consider you a friend trying to keep your ass safe, just let them and don’t fight them. You may just end up fighting them one too many times and they just might you go ahead and let you kill yourself on the road because they are tired of your drunken shenanigans.
And I must not forget the ones who should wear these warning labels, the ones who aggravate Miss Bernadine the most. I absolutely cannot stand the gay men in the community who feel entitled in life that they act like they own other gay men. Now I’m not speaking of the gay men who for them, this is their way of life due to a particular community to which they belong.
I’m referencing those gay men who act like just because they’ve either broken up with their man or have been dumped by him, that they act way too possessive with him, and in addition, act like the fool and cause a ruckus with any other man who seems to enter their universe.
It’s absurd! Ladies, get a grip on yourselves and stop playing the possessive, overly-trite gay man. It’s not a good look for you, and you ultimately look like you are trying to hold the monopoly on every man in the community. If you fellas want to date a slew of your fellow gay men, go for it. I’m not stopping you. But if you interfere in the lives of other men who I, or the others in the community, are dating as well, and you try to act like you have the exclusive rights to all men, that’s where I and others will draw the line with you.
So don’t act like you are all flabbergasted or indignant when you are called out for your actions. Because if you are putting yourself out there and want to play the field and date four or five guys at once, don’t act the fool if one of the many men spending time in your whorehouse is also spending time in others’ whorehouses. It’s just the way things go. Unless you are with the man exclusively, you have no say.
It’s as simple as that.
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